Saturday, November 7, 2009


2. Prepare to give and sacrifice

Ah.. one of the strongest words in the world. When different people think of sacrifice, different thoughts are invoked. Well, unfortunately, a LDR involves sacrificing many things, and constantly. Time, money effort, sleep, patience, thought, even tears are the basic things on the list. You will have to learn how to give and give more to receive and receive more. Indeed the definition of sacrifice is among other things, "the forfeiture of something highly valued for the sake of one considered to have a greater value or claim."

Interestingly among the highlight of things that I have sacrificed over the year include, an all expense paid Dim Sum lunch at one of London's most expensive Chinese restaurants, just under a litre of tears, whole days, opportunity costs and a man's ego. Was it worth it? Well, I hope to find out in the near future, but I hope it will all be worth the wait.

What to sacrifice?

Even more important than sacrifice is what to sacrifice and what not to. Note that different people value different things and different people value sacrifice differently. Don't be caught not knowing why you could have given so much but not given the return you expected. Well, it is because that's the return you expected and not what your partner expected. Be sure to do some research and weighing on what you are able to give and what not. Measure the value of what you are giving up. For instance, giving up your health is not a very wise thing to do.

So, to sum it up, give and thou shall receive.

1. LDRs can work
2. Prepare to give and sacrifice often
3. Make time for your partner
4. Distractions
5. Set some rules
6. Tell the truth
7. Go the extra mile
8. Get out of temptation
9. Practice and Learn
10.Expect arguements and be forgiving

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